One question can change a conversation.

We're not here to change minds.

We're here to help people see each other.

Because behind every opinion is a person. And sometimes all it takes to remember that is one thoughtful question.

We Don't Really Hate Each Other is a conversation card game designed to help people move beyond first impressions, opinions, and assumptions—and into the stories, experiences, and values that shape who we are.

Whether you're sitting around the dinner table with family, catching up with friends, building a stronger team at work, or meeting someone for the first time, these questions create space for conversations that might not happen otherwise.

No debating. No scorekeeping. Just listening.

Why this game is different.

Most conversation games help you learn facts about people.

This one helps you understand them.

The 150 questions are intentionally organized into three levels that gradually move from first impressions, to the experiences that shape our beliefs, to the values we often have in common.

Along the way you'll also find:

• Take a Sec cards to slow the pace.
• A Hit Pause chip for moments when a conversation needs a breath.
• A timer that helps everyone have space to be heard.

The goal isn't to finish with the same opinion.

It's to leave understanding someone a little better than when you started.

Why I made it.

For years I've watched conversations become shorter, louder, and more certain.

We ask fewer questions. We make more assumptions.

We confuse understanding someone with agreeing with them.

I kept wondering what would happen if we made it easier to stay connected while we disagree.

So I started writing questions.

One after another.

Eventually those questions became this game.

My hope is simple:

That it helps people listen a little longer.

Laugh a little more.

Remember that disagreement doesn't have to mean disconnection and that one conversation at a time, we can find our way back to one another.

— Cindy Malouf

Creator, We Don't Really Hate Each Other

One last thing.

You don't have to agree to connect. You just have to listen long enough to see the person behind the opinion.